The Ones Who Stay

In the wake of my Mother's Alzheimer's diagnosis, several friends and even family members, quietly fade into the background. While we were (and still are) grateful for those who remained by her side, the absence of the others left behind a massive void.

During our most vulnerable time, the phone stopped ringing, and in its place an overwhelming silence settled in. As the circles that once surrounded us grew smaller, our sense of isolation deepened. Over time, it became increasingly apparent that this journey was one we would largely face alone.

In the shadow of Mom’s diagnosis and the scary future we faced, we struggled to understand how people she had held so dear could turn away. As I've reflected on our experience, I’ve often wondered: In the face of difficult times, why do some of us choose to step back during challenging times?

I have always believed that our relationships—our chosen communities—are the lifelines that see us through the ups and downs of life. Without people in our corner, we are left to fight an uphill battle as a one-man army, and that’s a fight I certainly don’t want to face alone.

As you think about the people you hold dear, take a moment to consider who might be struggling right now. Is there someone who's grown quiet or distant lately? They may be carrying a burden you cannot see; they may be hiding their feelings to protect yours.

We all have the capacity for compassion, no matter how it’s expressed, no matter the gesture - If someone in your life is facing something hard or frightening, I ask you to surround them with arms wide open. Reach out, let them know you are there. Even if they don’t answer your call, believe me when I say your show of support will lift them. These gentle touches of human connection and love will guide them toward hope and light.

They will remember the ones who stood with them in the dark, the ones who stepped toward their pain, rather than away. They will always remember the ones who stayed.

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